Author, Speaker, Therapist
Books
Sensate Focus for the Individual
Therapeutic Approaches to Solo Erotic and Sexual Wellness
While traditional approaches have centered on couples, this groundbreaking guide shifts the focus to individual sexual wellness, providing therapists with essential tools to help clients explore, heal, and grow outside of partner-based relationships. This is an essential resource for sex therapists, sexuality educators, counselors, clinical social workers, marriage and family therapists, psychologists, and students in these fields. It is also helpful for practitioners looking to broaden their understanding of sexual wellness beyond couple-based approaches.
No More Fighting
A Relationship Journal for Couples: 52 Weeks of Prompts and Practices to Connect, Communicate, and Grow
Build a stronger bond as you journal with your partner
No matter how long you and your partner have been together, it’s completely normal to face issues in your relationship. This guided journal has everything you could want from a relationship book, including explorative prompts and expert advice designed to help you work through 52 of the most common challenges faced by couples, from poor communication to attachment issues.
White Papers
Erotic Self-Expansion: A Framework for Healing Trauma
Erotic Self-Expansion (ESE) positions erotic vitality not as a luxury, but as a healing pathway. By restoring internal permission for pleasure and intimacy, the model invites clients to not only recover from trauma—but to expand beyond it.
Publish Date: 2019
To cite the full document:
Smith-Fiallo, R. (2019). Erotic self-expansion: A framework for healing trauma. Rafaella Smith-Fiallo, LCSW. Updated 2024.
Exploring the 7 P's of Sexual Desire: A Screening Tool for Clinicians
This screening tool was created to support clinicians in exploring low or shifting sexual desire in a sensitive, trauma-informed, and non-pathologizing way. Rather than seeking to “fix” desire, this tool is intended to create space for open conversation and client-led exploration.
Publish Date: 2024
To cite the full document:
Smith-Fiallo, R. (2024). Exploring the 7 P's of sexual desire: A screening tool for clinicians. Rafaella Smith-Fiallo, LCSW.
To cite the standalone screening tool only:
Smith-Fiallo, R. (2024). Sexual desire screening tool. Rafaella Smith-Fiallo, LCSW. (Excerpted from Exploring the 7 P's of sexual desire: A screening tool for clinicians.)
